Recently a client called and was struggling. After the usual venting, and one question, the client came to a surprising conclusion: she was jealous of her children for being so smart.
This parent had struggled in school since she has dyslexia. She recalled the shame of needing extra help in school, and never being part of the class because she was different.
During the past two months of having her children at home and teaching them, she grew more and more frustrated even though the children were doing well, testing above their grade levels.
Then came her insight- “Oh my, I’m jealous of my children! Can I really be jealous of children?”
After a bit of exploration we also discovered fear and I guided her through a couple of simple techniques in which she was able to connect with herself as that struggling 2nd grader and bring resolution and resources to herself.
Reframing the fear and finding acceptance of the dyslexia, but also noticing her other talents as abilities.
When we ended the session, she was doing much better and now had new coping tools as well as a new insight about herself.
She now can raise her intelligent children and learn with them. The teacher always learns the most!
Inside all of us are wounded, struggling children from the past. But isn’t it nice to know we can help ourselves and finally become the person we were meant to be?
You are capable of great things, I know you are!