A recent trip brought me to the house I grew up in and I was looking through a pile of things I had stored there during the moving process to bring a few more items home with me.
I found a photo board from my late husbands funeral folded in half, tucked between two wall hangings and written on the back was, “Burn after engaged to the next Mr. Right. He must live up to these standards!”
Tucked inside the photo board was the 2 foot by 3 foot valentine card I had given him.
I took a few moments and looked at all the photos recalling the wonderful life we had together, and reflecting on how different I had become. Looking at the photos through what felt like different eyes. Realizing I would have been married 7 years this year.
Then wondered, could I really burn this?
I was already married to the next Mr. Right after all.
Could I let go of the past and fully embrace my new life and marriage?
Using self hypnosis I explored keeping the photos and large valentine card as well as following through and burning them as originally intended.
Moments later I was walking towards the basement to the wood furnace room.
I opened the door separating the house from the furnace room and stepped inside closing the door behind me.
For a moment I paused standing before the furnace and read my handwriting on the folded photo board, “Burn after engaged to the next Mr. Right. He must live up to these standards!”
Then with a silent prayer of gratitude I opened the furnace door and placed it and the oversized valentine card inside.
Immediately after closing the furnace door, the door back to the house unlatched and swung open!
Smiling I stepped through the open door, looking back briefly to see the smoke rising to the sky. The photos and valentine were going to be with him and I will always have the memories.
Was it and angel or him who opened the door?
I’ll never know, but I do know it was a sign for me to fully embrace my new life, marriage and to live my life - that he would always be with me.
“A merry heart works like a medicine” (Proverbs 17:22)
Unforgiveness is now a recorded medical condition, and generally causes chronic anxiety. When we do not forgive, we carry around a toxic burden of anger, hatred, revenge and dislike. These negative emotions create a toxic cocktail of adrenalin and cortisol, which impact our immune system.
Recent studies indicate that 61% of cancer patients have unforgiveness issues.
On a metaphysical level this fits in with the concept that we are all one. The anger/hatred/revenge/dislike is being heaped on ourselves, not just those whom it is aimed at, with negative impact.
(The Holistic Guide to Hypnotherapy by Steve Webster CHt and others. Page 127)
Leaves of healing:
A few weeks ago I did a personal session with a trusted hypnotherapist. The session was to help me release anger around an event that happened 4 years ago.
Before the session I had done self hypnosis to contain the emotions and event until they could be properly dealt with.
During the session of release and reframing, imagery of leaves falling and how trees effortlessly let go of leaves so they can rest and prepare for the next season... was used. It was a simple yet deep session.
After the session I felt release from the event and emotions attached to it.
In the following days every falling leaf brought a smile to my face as I continued to release and let go of the past event, as memories came up.
Recently I was sorting through a box and found a brochure for a place one of the people from the event and I went to. Upon picking up the brochure, 5 presses leaves fell out.
“You are really sorry aren’t you?” I thought to myself as I smiled looking at the leaves. I remembered the good times we had at this place on the brochure and seemed to not recall the bad things much at all.
(The leaves had been placed in the brochure years before knowing this person. Funny how they should fall out just then?!)
Leaves will continue to fall and I will smile each time as I recall more of the good and less of the negative.
Hypnosis is a powerful healing tool, even for the hypnotherapist!
And yes, healing continues long after the client leaves the office.