Seasons of Change
I became a hypnotherapist for three reasons: 1-because a mentor told me I was good at it, 2-to heal myself and 3-to help others heal themselves.
As hypnotists, we are taught that every client has within them the power to heal them self. Our job is to assist them in that process.
Nearly 6 years ago my life changed forever with the sudden death of my husband.
Since then I have been putting myself back together, finding my new wholeness.
Recently, for the first time in years I listened to my favorite music again!
A way to know you are healing is that you can enjoy the things you used to enjoy and feel good about the past as you are present in the moment now.
When you can look back on all the bad experiences and be grateful they happened, is also another sign of healing.
Change is constant but YOU have the ability to choose the majority of that change.
Mainly by HOW you think and WHAT you think.
No matter what you are facing or wanting to heal from, know that YOU have the POWER to choose how you feel.
There is great power in letting go and forgiving.
It FREES YOU!
Bad and unfortunate things happen, but it’s how we choose to respond to them that makes or breaks us.
The most compassionate, hard working people I know, are the ones who have chosen to not be the victims of circumstance.
Yes they have cried and felt awful, but they also picked themselves up and become stronger.
10 years ago, after I was sexually assaulted at work with no recourse from the law. I went home curled up in a ball on the floor and prayed to die. When I picked myself up off the floor I stood in the shower and scrubbed myself till I nearly bleed. I fell asleep from exhaustion, then cried, showered and slept again.
Only after I began talking about what happened did things begin to change. An advocate heard about me and helped me obtain a restraining order and people reached out as support.
The obsessive showers and scrubbing stopped and at some point I felt clean, put nice clothes on again and went back to work.
There are many more things I have lived through, and so have you, dear reader.
Remember to remember this: YOU have the power of choice.
You can choose to remain the Victim or you can pick yourself up and let the wounds (physically or emotionally) heal, and become the Victor!
YOU have the power of CHOICE.
Most people wake automatically at a certain time daily. They have trained their mind to do so over time, to the point of not needing an alarm clock to remind them.
A mother or father can sleep through a storm but wake at the slightest fuss or cry of their baby.
Driving your vehicle- most of your driving habits (good or bad, known or unknown) are self taught and now hardwired.
If you drive the same route to work each day, you are usually not consciously aware of the route unless something unexpected shows up: animal, slow moving vehicles, etc.
Your employment: if you have a job that requires repetition, often times it becomes as automatic as driving.
When your day goes faster than expected: “Wow it’s that time already!”
You’ve been so absorbed in the task or so lost in thought that you blanked out time until it became important again.
“Time to go home!”
Even shopping can be trance inducing! Have you ever unpacked your purchases and wonder why you bought that? You were unconsciously shopping as a song reminded you of this or that and made you feel happy or sad and you purchased the item(s) without knowing why.
And yes, food is trance inducing as well. Have you ever suddenly felt hungry after watching a food commercial?
This may sound scary but don’t worry, you live your life from one trance to the next, all day, every day.
You’ve trained yourself to wake up on time, drive, do your job and many other things.
Why not learn self-hypnosis and learn to change and/or do things better?
It’s your life to live, no more be can live it for you!
A recent trip brought me to the house I grew up in and I was looking through a pile of things I had stored there during the moving process to bring a few more items home with me.
I found a photo board from my late husbands funeral folded in half, tucked between two wall hangings and written on the back was, “Burn after engaged to the next Mr. Right. He must live up to these standards!”
Tucked inside the photo board was the 2 foot by 3 foot valentine card I had given him.
I took a few moments and looked at all the photos recalling the wonderful life we had together, and reflecting on how different I had become. Looking at the photos through what felt like different eyes. Realizing I would have been married 7 years this year.
Then wondered, could I really burn this?
I was already married to the next Mr. Right after all.
Could I let go of the past and fully embrace my new life and marriage?
Using self hypnosis I explored keeping the photos and large valentine card as well as following through and burning them as originally intended.
Moments later I was walking towards the basement to the wood furnace room.
I opened the door separating the house from the furnace room and stepped inside closing the door behind me.
For a moment I paused standing before the furnace and read my handwriting on the folded photo board, “Burn after engaged to the next Mr. Right. He must live up to these standards!”
Then with a silent prayer of gratitude I opened the furnace door and placed it and the oversized valentine card inside.
Immediately after closing the furnace door, the door back to the house unlatched and swung open!
Smiling I stepped through the open door, looking back briefly to see the smoke rising to the sky. The photos and valentine were going to be with him and I will always have the memories.
Was it and angel or him who opened the door?
I’ll never know, but I do know it was a sign for me to fully embrace my new life, marriage and to live my life - that he would always be with me.
“A merry heart works like a medicine” (Proverbs 17:22)
Unforgiveness is now a recorded medical condition, and generally causes chronic anxiety. When we do not forgive, we carry around a toxic burden of anger, hatred, revenge and dislike. These negative emotions create a toxic cocktail of adrenalin and cortisol, which impact our immune system.
Recent studies indicate that 61% of cancer patients have unforgiveness issues.
On a metaphysical level this fits in with the concept that we are all one. The anger/hatred/revenge/dislike is being heaped on ourselves, not just those whom it is aimed at, with negative impact.
(The Holistic Guide to Hypnotherapy by Steve Webster CHt and others. Page 127)
Leaves of healing:
A few weeks ago I did a personal session with a trusted hypnotherapist. The session was to help me release anger around an event that happened 4 years ago.
Before the session I had done self hypnosis to contain the emotions and event until they could be properly dealt with.
During the session of release and reframing, imagery of leaves falling and how trees effortlessly let go of leaves so they can rest and prepare for the next season... was used. It was a simple yet deep session.
After the session I felt release from the event and emotions attached to it.
In the following days every falling leaf brought a smile to my face as I continued to release and let go of the past event, as memories came up.
Recently I was sorting through a box and found a brochure for a place one of the people from the event and I went to. Upon picking up the brochure, 5 presses leaves fell out.
“You are really sorry aren’t you?” I thought to myself as I smiled looking at the leaves. I remembered the good times we had at this place on the brochure and seemed to not recall the bad things much at all.
(The leaves had been placed in the brochure years before knowing this person. Funny how they should fall out just then?!)
Leaves will continue to fall and I will smile each time as I recall more of the good and less of the negative.
Hypnosis is a powerful healing tool, even for the hypnotherapist!
And yes, healing continues long after the client leaves the office.